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Attitudes about sex and sexuality are learned. Ideas about sexual behavior are learned as well. We've had some bad examples of male sexual behavior in the news lately. What are you teaching your son about appropriate sexual behavior? It's a challenging subject, I know. The culture doesn't make it any easier.
In addition, internet porn marketers are after your sons. They hope to hook as many males as they can at a young age so they can have income from these boys and men for life. And they know just how the male mind works so they know how to lure them in. Once he is lured in your boy will be taught by the pornographers to objectify women and girls, mix sex and violence, and measure sexual satisfaction in terms of domination. It's bad for women, it's bad for the men/boys. Pornography threatens to hijack the imagination and future sexual satisfaction of your son. I'm not kidding.

If you want help addressing pornography and other boy issues of the growing-up years schedule a Growing up Male event - I address challenging topics about sexuality and appropriate behavior in those workshops. If you don't live in Northern California you can still access the content through the Growing up Male home-study course. There is a segment of the program for parents and a segment for you and your son to listen to and respond to together. The program is designed for preteen and teen boys and their parents.

Loving Parents and Strong Families Shape Children for Life

Top 10 Tips:

1. Focus on love
2. Keep an eye on the big picture
3. Be persistent, you are the parent
4. Highlight the positive; people grow from their strengths
5. Give children important work to do
6. Invest in shared experiences and family time; strong relationships with trusted adults are a key indicator of stability in the teen years
7. Cultivate an atmosphere of fun
8. Take a break
9. Show your humanity
10. Talk about the hard stuff

See my new video (click here).

This video was filmed at a talk I did for a group of parents with kids in late elementary and early middle school. It really does make a difference when parents tell their kids what they think about sex and especially what they think about kids having sex. Studies show that kids respond. Kids agree. It's true; I ask the kids. Young people whose parents had open conversations with them about sex really appreciated it. Now I don't think the kids appreciate it at the time (they are usually uncomfortable at the time) - but I'm talking about years later. I've had these later-year conversations with young people. They were so grateful to have had parents who gave them information and guidance. None of these young people reported the conversations being comfortable. Almost all of the young people reported the conversations being HELPFUL. That's the key.

Healthy attitudes about sex are learned. If you don't want your kids picking up the attitudes of the culture then you need to provide alternative attitudes. If you feel unprepared you can use my audio programs and my book to help. Click here to see those products.
I'd also be happy to work with  you to bring my parent-child workshops to an organization you belong to (school, church, scout troop, etc.). When you bring me in to do a parent-child event I will have the frank and often difficult conversation about sex with your kids with you present. Then all you have to do is agree or clarify. I make it comfortable - or at least as comfortable as possible. I even make it fun, believe it or not. I promise you will live through it and your kids will be the better for it.